I didn’t wake up like this. I didn’t wake up with my hair done, looking clean and put together. I did not wake up a fully functional human being who can engage in conversation above, “morning. How are you?” I did not wake up and roll out of bed, and come here with no thought. This was intentional. I came here with purpose.
I woke up, showered, had breakfast, had a gallon of coffee, decided what I was going to wear, did my hair, put my make up on, and made sure that I arrived here on time. I’m not afraid to admit that I live a life that has effort in it. That I wake up with the intention to be where I am, and don’t spontaneously arrive at the places I want to be. My life is lived with objectives, not through ten million happy accidents getting me to this place at this time.
I would rather live a life of intention. I would rather put in an effort when seeing my friends. I would rather put in an effort when showing up for life. I want you to know that I worked hard to get to where I am today; it wasn’t all moments of “oops! Glad that worked out!”
My life has been a series of events, planned and unplanned that have gotten me to where I am today, and all of that have taken effort. Each moment has taken conscious engagement. I have put in thought to how my hair looks. Have put in thought to making sure my outfit works. Have put in thought to being prepared for my day.
I am exhausted by people who claim otherwise. I am tired of hearing about these impossible standards that people set, and then ‘seamlessly’ accomplish. Their life is lived as effortlessly as mine. Read: not. Everything ‘seamless’ people do has intention. It took work. And I wish people would start admitting that. Why is it that it is such a bad thing to put in an effort? Wouldn’t you rather engage with someone who wants to be there? Who made an effort to be there?
Because if you show up the way you wake up, you are not present. You are groggy, and only at the start of the human being you are going to be for the day. There is nothing wrong with that person. There is nothing wrong with how your hair looks, or the fact that you’re not wearing make-up. But you are just at the start of your day. The world is about to get going. It only gets better after you wake up.
So decide to put in the effort. Make that choice. Show up. Give it all. And take some credit. For goodness sake, please take that bow.